My urge to hug you and let you cry is really strong right now. I’m going to go back to the people I’m hanging with right now and respond to this more later, but for now I think it’s really cool your sprite has colours and you’ve hit on something with your wolf ❤️
You’re so sweet!! You really do understand how my anxiety works 😂❤️
Clod I am, I was so focused on righting the whole plant debacle that I omitted the part of the story where Ben did actually hold me and let me cry, rubbing my back and apologizing the whole time! Luckily, he never takes things too personally! He literally gave me permission to write about his hemorrhoids, if I want to 🤷♀️
I’m so glad he did that for you!! Ben sounds like your kind of person.
I’ve read some stuff recently that suggests we don’t handle bullies well. That the kid who bullies needs every bit as much support as the kid who was bullied. I think it’s true but struggle with how that looks in practice. I think baby steps would be looking at the wolf in all of us (fire breathing dragon here? She’s proud and a bit murderous and fairly keen on burning everything down. Hmmm…) and treating that internal creature with compassion and seeing if we can get her to a place where she’s more effective and less destructive. Might make me a better parent too when my kid bites his brother. Interesting. Lots to think about there.
Also Ben’s solution is better than my ransom note idea. Better chance of not making the situation worse 😜
“Proud and a bit murderous and fairly keen on burning everything down” lol!! I already love her 😂❤️ I am curious, what do you think is making her feel angry? (On a micro level, perhaps, and a macro level!) What does she need? How could she be more effective and less destructive, ie where does she absolutely shine? You don’t have to answer these here obv, but I’m just so intrigued by your “wolf” :)
“Might make me a better parent too when my kid bites his brother. Interesting.” That made me laugh out loud, though, I hope everyone involved is okay 😂
Thank you! I am currently shaking with rage and am trying out these questions while preparing for a walk. Yes, the rage is justified, but also it’s always there and it’s happy to say “see, reasons!” when frankly I know it would be there whether today happened or not. So yeah… that’s the question. What does she need? Where does she shine? Maybe then I can calm her down (because “just chill “ isn’t effective!)
This is a gorgeous post, Lauren! Congratulations to you and your crew (nods to Sprite, Wolf and also George Michael and Ben) on banging out a piece of writing that is laugh-out-loud funny while also heart-rending and so relatable. Also big congrats to you on sleuthing out ways you can support these important inner characters who are an integral part of you and what you have to offer. <3 Also, I really felt this line to be so beautiful: "his deep purrs reverberating through space-time to heal every iteration of my soul" Wow, I feel the reverb through my laptop!
Your words are also reverberating through space-time and healing my soul <3
I’d be so curious to know what everyone’s “crew” looks like, if we factor in that all of us are backed by energies that aren’t tangible/visible within the material world!
I’m really glad that line spoke to you, George Michael and I feel very seen ❤️
what fun it would be to have a crew party some day :)) - I'm so glad that you and George Michael felt seen. I see you *and* feel both of your big hearts.
My urge to hug you and let you cry is really strong right now. I’m going to go back to the people I’m hanging with right now and respond to this more later, but for now I think it’s really cool your sprite has colours and you’ve hit on something with your wolf ❤️
You’re so sweet!! You really do understand how my anxiety works 😂❤️
Clod I am, I was so focused on righting the whole plant debacle that I omitted the part of the story where Ben did actually hold me and let me cry, rubbing my back and apologizing the whole time! Luckily, he never takes things too personally! He literally gave me permission to write about his hemorrhoids, if I want to 🤷♀️
#soulmate
I’m so glad he did that for you!! Ben sounds like your kind of person.
I’ve read some stuff recently that suggests we don’t handle bullies well. That the kid who bullies needs every bit as much support as the kid who was bullied. I think it’s true but struggle with how that looks in practice. I think baby steps would be looking at the wolf in all of us (fire breathing dragon here? She’s proud and a bit murderous and fairly keen on burning everything down. Hmmm…) and treating that internal creature with compassion and seeing if we can get her to a place where she’s more effective and less destructive. Might make me a better parent too when my kid bites his brother. Interesting. Lots to think about there.
Also Ben’s solution is better than my ransom note idea. Better chance of not making the situation worse 😜
“Proud and a bit murderous and fairly keen on burning everything down” lol!! I already love her 😂❤️ I am curious, what do you think is making her feel angry? (On a micro level, perhaps, and a macro level!) What does she need? How could she be more effective and less destructive, ie where does she absolutely shine? You don’t have to answer these here obv, but I’m just so intrigued by your “wolf” :)
“Might make me a better parent too when my kid bites his brother. Interesting.” That made me laugh out loud, though, I hope everyone involved is okay 😂
And Ben’s idea might be “better,” as in more socially acceptable; but yours is way more fun! My inner mischief is totally here for it!
Thank you! I am currently shaking with rage and am trying out these questions while preparing for a walk. Yes, the rage is justified, but also it’s always there and it’s happy to say “see, reasons!” when frankly I know it would be there whether today happened or not. So yeah… that’s the question. What does she need? Where does she shine? Maybe then I can calm her down (because “just chill “ isn’t effective!)
“See? Reasons!” lol!
Man I have to say, it’s just so refreshing to me that we can talk about anger/rage so openly!
It’s such a key emotion that we’ve been taught to suppress, which is for sure part of the problem.
Anger can be so productive, as long as we can learn how not to burn other people with it!
In any case, I really hope your dragon let you know what she’s needing right now!
This is a gorgeous post, Lauren! Congratulations to you and your crew (nods to Sprite, Wolf and also George Michael and Ben) on banging out a piece of writing that is laugh-out-loud funny while also heart-rending and so relatable. Also big congrats to you on sleuthing out ways you can support these important inner characters who are an integral part of you and what you have to offer. <3 Also, I really felt this line to be so beautiful: "his deep purrs reverberating through space-time to heal every iteration of my soul" Wow, I feel the reverb through my laptop!
Aww thank you so much, Keith!
Your words are also reverberating through space-time and healing my soul <3
I’d be so curious to know what everyone’s “crew” looks like, if we factor in that all of us are backed by energies that aren’t tangible/visible within the material world!
I’m really glad that line spoke to you, George Michael and I feel very seen ❤️
what fun it would be to have a crew party some day :)) - I'm so glad that you and George Michael felt seen. I see you *and* feel both of your big hearts.